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Rehabilitation of Rape & Violence Survivors One of the biggest misconceptions around rape is that a “certain” type of man rapes and a “certain” type of women gets raped (often under “certain” circumstances). The overwhelming complicity of perpetrators in familial positions of power, or those who are known to victims, is grossly understated.


Latest NCRB data shows 95% rape victims in India known to offenders  


Statistics released by the country’s National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) have revealed that at least 34,651 cases of rape were reported across India in 2015, and the numbers are growing.

The figures, released in 2016, showed that victims ranged from female children younger than six years old to women over 60 years, with those aged between 18 and 30 reporting the largest number of rape attacks – totalling almost 17,000.Victims knew their alleged rapists in 33,098 of the 34,651 reported rape cases, or 95.5 percent, according to the figures. There were also 4,437 cases of reported attempted rape.


The figures are likely not  an accurate representation of the scale of the problem, as stigma surrounding sex crimes means many attacks are not reported.

The most powerful factor in determining how people respond to rape is the nature of the traumatic event itself. Not only is there the element of surprise, the threat of death and the threat of injury, there is also the violation of the person. This violation is physical, emotional and moral and associated with the closest human intimacy of sexual contact. The intention of the rapist is often to profane this most private aspect of the person and render the victim utterly helpless. Rape by its very nature is intentionally designed to produce psychological trauma. It is form of organised social violence comparable only to the combat of war. We get nowhere in our understanding of Rape Trauma Syndrome if we think of rape as simply being unwanted sex. Where combat veterans suffer Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, rape survivors experience similar symptoms on a physical, behavioral and psychological level.


We have a vision of a VIOLENCE FREE INDIA in which women are safe in their communities, and where the criminal justice system supports and empowers rape survivors. Our goal is to promote an end to violence against women – specifically rape. Rape survivors are key to successful convictions, and their empowerment is based on safety, respect, support and the ability to make informed choices as they embark on this difficult and challenging journey. We aim to reduce the trauma experienced by survivors and encourage them to report rape. We support communities in challenging high rape rates and flaws in the criminal justice system. These goals are achieved through coordinated action and encouraging communities to devise innovative prevention strategies, and to build safe spaces within areas (including the workplace), We also strive to change attitudes about rape, and create a culture of respect for women and girls in India. Survivors who want to speak out about their rape experiences are offered opportunities to do so through our SPEAK Campaign.

 

    Challenging Rape   


These are some questions we must think about:

 

  • How can women and men organise together against rape?
  • Why do so many men think rape is something to joke about and some – thing that makes men look strong?
  • Why do so many men think rape is something to joke about and some – thing that makes men look strong?
  • Why do we teach boys to be rough and tough, but teach girls to be soft and to hide their strength?
  • Why don’t we talk more openly about sex and sexual communication?
  • What can mothers and fathers do to raise sons who respect girls?
  • What can parents do to raise daughters who feel a strong sense of their rights?
  • How can we organise improved safety for all women?
  • How can we make our homes, our streets and our workplaces safe?
  • How can we make our leaders and politicians set a good example when it comes to condemning rape and sexist attitudes?

 

We constantly work towards spreading the word that rape has no place in our country. People working against rape are stronger when working together than on their own. Men can also work to challenge rape and men and women can work together as activists to challenge rape in our country.


We ensure the survivors know their rights; as a survivor of rape crime, you have the right:

 

  • to be treated with fairness and with respect for your dignity and privacy
  • to offer information
  • to protection
  • to assistance
  • to compensation
  • to restitution
  • to legal advice


  What Can You Do 

Be aware of language Words are very powerful, especially when spoken by people with power over others. We live in a society in which words are often used to put women down, where calling a girl or woman a bitch, chick, whore, baby, goose, slut, dog and so on, is common. Such language conveys a message that females are less than fully human. When we view women as inferior, it becomes easier to treat them with less respect and to disregard their rights and their well-being. Communicate Sexual violence often goes hand in hand with poor communication. Our discomfort with talking honestly and openly about sex dramatically increases the risk of rape. By learning effective sexual communication – stating your desires clearly, listening to your partner and asking for clarity when the situation is unclear – men and women can make sex safer for everyone.


Speak up You will probably never see a rape in progress, but you will see and hear attitudes and behaviors that degrade women and promote rape. When your best friend tells a joke about rape, tell him you don’t find it funny. When you read an article that blames a rape survivor for being assaulted, write a letter of complaint to the editor. Do anything except remain silent.


Support survivors of rape The problem of rape will not be taken seriously until everyone knows how common it is. The number of rapes, gang rapes is increasing gradually. By learning to sensitively support survivors in their lives, men can help both women and their families feel safer to speak out about being raped. In this way we can let the world know how serious a problem rape is. Our Rape Survivor Rehabilitation Program supports survivors financially to fight the tardy justice system and enables them to get financially independent.


Contribute your time and money Join or donate to SPEAK CAMPAIGN and “Survivor Rehab Program” working to prevent sexual violence against women. WE count on donations and always need volunteers to share the workload. If you think you have a natural talent for counseling or for speaking on a public platform about rape education, then enroll to become a volunteer.

 

 


  Talk About It 


Talk to women:

  • about how the risk of being raped affects their daily lives
  • about how they wish to be supported, if it has happened to them
  • about what they think men can do to prevent sexual violence.


If you’re willing to listen, you can learn a lot from women about the impact of rape and how to stop it.


Talk to men:

  • about how it feels to be seen as a potential rapist
  • about the fact that 10–20% of all males will be sexually abused in their lifetimes 
  • about whether they know someone who’s been raped. 


Learn about how sexual violence touches the lives of men and what we can do to stop it.